You’ve been dating this guy for a couple of months now with weekly visits. You both enjoy searching for the best Mexican, watching games together, and he even supports your sudden favorite hobbies. Everything is great except one simple detail – you have no idea where the relationship stands.
While everything is going so well, he hasn’t made any introductions of calling you his girlfriend and never talked about being exclusive. You might be craving the title of being a “couple” and all the benefits that come with it.
So what can you do about it?
Here are three tips on how to go from casual dates to a relationship.
Be sure that this is what you want
Before you go and make the big jump, make sure that this is exactly what you want to do. Take a step back and ask yourself if you enjoy time with him, does he give you a better version of yourself? Does he respect you?
Also, think about any negative points of his behavior and how you are when you are together. Is he the jealous type? If so, you will need to reevaluate things before convincing yourself that you “should” be with him because you’ve spent all this time together. Instead, choose him if you are in a relationship where you feel good, but even better when you’re with him.
Skip the “What are we?” Talk
While this might be your specific call-to-action, dating experts say that a good relationship is built on momentum. If we put a stop to check in on how we’re doing, it will become a sure way to burn the fire of romance. Instead, allow things to progress and notice the signs.
Does he come to see you when he’s free? Does he make plans with you? Does he seem interested in what you have to say? If yes, relax on the label of becoming official and let things happen naturally.
Even if you are always excited to take his call, don’t make yourself available at all times. Create something worth investing in and allow him to realize your real value. Don’t remember; no one enjoys playing mind games so be thoughtful of his time too.
Follow these tips to help you turn your casual dating into something serious.